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Brent B writes:

I won't be posting to your [KindnessActs] group. I visited your crisis site and was shocked by it's money making schemes. No thanks. bye

Brent,
My goodness. Why don't you want me to support myself? It's a business web site after all, what did you expect? I think meaningful work is a good way to be independent and self-sufficient, don't you?

If I'm not to sell my books or charge for my professional skills, then how do you suggest I buy groceries and pay for heat and electricity? If I stop trying to earn an income will you cover all my living expenses and medical care for me?

What is it about my earning an income that you don't like? Are you upset that my services aren't free? You were in the Kindness Acts group where all you had to do was make a request for something you need.

I'd be interested to know the reasons for your distaste.
Andrea

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John Roberts writes:

Are you married? If not, then why you claimed to be an expert on marriage?

"No relationship can be successful if it begins in a deceitful manner."

To those who lie with their name and their ways are suffering a serious problem. And that problem is called "RDD", known as REALITY DEFICIT DISORDER. "RDD" is also common among witches.

John,
Thanks for your excellent question. Just two days ago I had a long discussion with a friend of mine (who happens to be priest who has advised many couples prior to marriage) about what I know and don't know. I have never claimed to be an expert on marriage. It would be a little like a fat person counseling others on eating disorders! I do have a family studies degree for which I studied marriage and family relations, but in good conscience I don't think I have the personal or academic qualifications to be a marriage expert.

However, I do know how to help people stay out of bad relationships. That's as far as I go: how to avoid dating those individuals who are toxic (not good for you), how to stay out of going-nowhere relationships when your relationship goal is marriage, and how to be the kind of person who is ready for a healthy relationship and how to recognize partners who are emotionally healthy and marriage-ready.

And I agree with you that a relationship built on deceit (or secrecy about serious matters) will be lacking in trust when the truth is discovered. (And it will.)

Not knowing very much about witches I had no idea they weren't functioning in reality. Tell me, are you an expert on witches? Can you point me to the research which proves your statement?
Andrea